It’s the hardest job you’ll ever do...
Often I heard these words from parents, “it’s the hardest job you’ll ever do”...that word hard is left ringing in your ears. Often a word associated with negativity. It’s too hard, too difficult, too challenging. So it begs the question if parenting is so hard, if this is everyone’s go to word to describe their parenting experience, why on earth are so many people embarking on a parenting journey?
Hard is not a word I would use to describe my experience so far. It’s not because I have an easy child. He screams, he cries, he definitely doesn’t sleep well. It’s not because I’m a super Mum. Yes I like to cook, and I am organised, but I’m just like anyone else: A 26 year old trying to figure out the best way to raise my baby. Sure some days are long, and some nights are even longer but I would never describe being a Mum as hard. Group assignments at uni were hard, running a half marathon was hard. Being a mum goes far beyond these types of things.
The negativity that surrounds becoming a parent is baffling to me. “Make the most of your sleep”, “Better get all your alone time in now”, “You’ll never have a moments peace again”. The list of negative comments that were said to me while pregnant were endless. Why is it that current parents were only talking about parenthood negatively? I never understood and frankly I still don’t. Rewarding. Breathtaking. Magical. That’s how I’ll be describing parenting.
Moments are hard, but these moments are fleeting. Blink and you’ll miss them. Parenting itself is not hard. Parenting is the most beautiful and rewarding thing you could ever partake in. To raise a child, to instil your values and help them learn is such an incredible experience. Watching Hunter grow, watching him explore his world and knowing that I’m the one who gets to help him along the way is far from hard, it’s exciting, fulfilling and beyond any expectations I had.
As with anything in life, every situation is what you make of it. If you go in with a negative attitude, with a pre conceived idea of how hard something will be it probably won’t be that enjoyable. Switch that thinking. I choose to view every experience as a parent in a positive light. To consciously be aware that these moments are flying by too quickly and to make the most of it. Let’s start talking about the positives because parenting is the most important job in the world and it’s so much more than a few sleepless nights.